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0纽约时报上刊登了一个心理学的发现
只要两个问互相提问和回答这36道问题
完成后，哪怕是陌生人都会爱上对方
我们一起来看一下这么神奇的问题吧
这些问题可能没有媒体报道的那么“神奇”
但是通过回答这些问题
通过self-disclosure 自我袒露
能够增进与对方的亲密度
爱分很多种
我们都希望在不同的感情中
更亲密的和对方相处
更需要吐露自己的想法和表达
希望无论是友情
爱情还是亲情
你能收获一份深切的感情
1.问题：Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest? 给你一个可以选择世界上任意一个人的机会，你会选择和谁共进晚餐?
given the choice: 给予选择
Chopin and Bach: 肖邦和巴赫
2.问题：What would constitute a perfect day for you? 什么组成了你完美的一天？
constitute /ˈkɒnstɪtju:t/: 组成，构成
spend time with family: 陪家人
3.If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why? 如果你知道一年之内，你会突然死掉，你会改变现在的生活方式吗？
travel around the world: 周游世界
4.问题：Tell your partner something that you like about them already. 告诉对方，你已经开始喜欢他身上的一些东西
hard-working: 勤奋努力
committed: 坚持的，坚定的
help…out: 帮助
（如果想要顺利的和男神/女神进行了解，要从第一个问题开始一条一条的问哦）
36个爱的问题
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?给你一个可以选择世界上任意一个人的机会，你会选择和谁共进晚餐?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?你想要成名吗?以什么方式?
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?打电话前，你会事先排练你要说的话吗?为什么?
4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?你心中一个完美的日子是怎样构成的?
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?你上次对着自己唱歌是什么时候?对着别人呢?
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you choose?如果你可以活到90岁，在你人生最后60年里，你想拥有30岁的大脑还是身体？
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?关于怎么死去，你有没有过神秘的预感?
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common。举出你和你对面这位的3个共同点。
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?你人生中最感激的是什么?
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?如果可以改变你的成长过程，你想要改变什么?
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible。请在4分钟内尽量详细地对你的搭档讲述你的人生故事。
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?如果你明天醒来时能得到一种新的能力或品质，你想要的是什么?
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?如果水晶球可以告诉你关于你自己、你的未来、你的人生等等一切事情，你想要知道什么?
14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?有没有什么是你梦寐以求的?但为什么没有做?
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?你人生中最大的成就是什么?16. What do you value most in a friendship?友谊中你最珍视的是什么?
17. What is your most treasured memory?你最珍贵的回忆是什么?
18. What is your most terrible memory?你最糟糕的记忆是什么?
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?如果你知道你一年后会突然死掉，你会改变你的生活方式吗?为什么?
20. What does friendship mean to you?友谊对你意味着什么?
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?爱情与感情在你的人生中分别扮演什么角色?
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items。轮流分享你认为对方应该具有的好品质，总共分享5个。
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?你的家庭亲密、温暖吗?你觉得你的童年是不是比其他人更幸福一些?
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?你觉得和妈妈的关系怎样?
25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling ... “分别造三句“我们”的句子。例如，“我们同时在这个房间，感觉……”
26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share ... “完成这句句子：“我希望我有一个能和他分享……的人。”
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.如果你想和对方成为亲密的朋友，请分享你认为很重要并一定要对方知晓的事情。
28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.告诉对方你喜欢他的什么；一定要中肯诚实，不要说那些和第一次见面的陌生人就能说的泛泛之谈。
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.分享给对方你人生中一个尴尬的瞬间。
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?你最近一次在别人面前哭是什么时候？被谁弄哭的？还是自己哭的？
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already。告诉对方，你已经开始喜欢他身上的一些东西。
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?有什么事情是不能随便开玩笑的?
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?如果你今夜就会死去，而且没有机会和任何人说话，你最遗憾的没有说出口的话是?为什么你还没有告诉他们?
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?你的家着火了，而且你所有的东西都在里面。在救出你的爱人和宠物以后，你还有机会安全救出一样东西。你会救什么?为什么?
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?你所有的家庭成员中谁的死会最让你不安?为什么?
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen。分享一个你的私人困扰，并向对方询问他/她处理问题的解决建议，另外，请让对方向你反映，你面对你选择的这个问题时的感受。
