Emotions 2.0: The Benefits of Mixed Emotions

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Sometimes we feel just one single feeling with overwhelming force. We're joyously happy. We're crushingly sad. But sometimes it's more complicated than that: We feel happy and sad at the same time. This week, we revisit a favorite 2022 episode with psychologist Naomi Rothman, who shares her research on the mixed emotion of ambivalence. She explores how being of two minds changes the way we think, and how it changes the way others see us.

Did you catch the first two episodes in our Emotions 2.0 series? You can find them in this podcast feed, or on our website, hiddenbrain.org. Thanks for listening!

展开Show Notes

区海明

2024.11.05

45:35 There are two ways to handle intense emotional pressure, like when a loved one is seriously ill. One approach is to suppress the negative emotions, pushing them down to avoid feeling their full impact. The other way, however, is to stay curious—to notice, acknowledge, and understand these difficult emotions. By doing this, we honor the truth of our emotional experience without pretending or denying the reality of the situation.

应对强烈情感压力的方法有两种，比如当挚爱之人身患重病时。第一种方法是压抑负面情绪，将其压制下来，以避免感受到情绪的全部冲击。另一种方法则是保持好奇心，去观察、承认并理解这些艰难的情绪。通过这种方式，我们尊重自己情感体验的真实，而不是假装无事或否认当下的现实。

区海明

2024.11.05

39:39 If you develop a paradox mindset instead of relying on an either-or approach, tension will naturally arise—but the tension itself isn’t the problem. The key is building the capability to tolerate this tension. With a paradox mindset, you can learn to embrace it, using it as a source of growth, allowing both perspectives to thrive together.

如果培养一种悖论思维，而不是依赖非此即彼的方式，矛盾和张力自然会产生——但张力本身并不是问题。关键在于培养对这种张力的容忍力。通过悖论思维，可以学会接纳这种张力，把它作为成长的源泉，使得两种视角能够共同发展。

区海明

2024.11.05

29:59 There’s a paradox here: leaders who show ambivalence may risk undermining their authority, as it can backfire and cause others to question their decisiveness. Yet, showing ambivalence can also foster a cooperative environment. By openly considering multiple perspectives, a leader can encourage team members to exchange information and seek each other’s input. The solution to this paradox may lie in timing. ⭐️Leaders should first establish a cooperative, trusting atmosphere within the team. ⭐️Once a supportive environment is in place, the leader’s ambivalence is less likely to be seen as a lack of confidence and more as openness to collaboration.

这里存在一个悖论：领导者表现出矛盾态度可能会削弱自己的权威，因为这种表现可能会适得其反，导致他人质疑其果断性。然而，展现矛盾心态也可以营造一种合作氛围。通过公开考虑多种视角，领导者能够鼓励团队成员交流信息，并相互征求意见。解决这一悖论的方法可能在于时机的把握。领导者应首先在团队内部建立一种合作与信任的氛围。当支持性环境已然形成后，领导者的矛盾态度就不再被视为信心不足，而更被理解为一种开放的协作态度。

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