How can full-time housewives avoid self-wear and tear?

How do housewives achieve self-demotion? People need their own careers. They need to obtain a sense of identity and a sense of accomplishment from their jobs or the things they are creating. However, being a housewife means cutting off the broader sources of a sense of accomplishment. After becoming a housewife, if even for just a second, you regard gaining your family's satisfaction as the goal of life or obtain recognition from it, you will automatically be demoted to a maid. Your family members will subconsciously find fault with your "work". They will shift from being originally grateful for your efforts to judging them. They may start to compare your work with the standards they've seen from other channels. For example, at first, they thought the meals you cooked were delicious, but later on, they gradually began to think that the meals you cooked were not nutritious or healthy enough, even though they didn't have to do the cooking themselves. Or they might think that the cleaning you did wasn't clean enough. The difficulty here is that once you become a housewife, it's almost impossible for you to receive positive feedback from anywhere outside the family. Inevitably, you will put yourself in the position of a maid. And your family members will gradually regard you as a maid based on the signals conveyed by your daily behaviors, taking a clean and tidy home environment and delicious meals as the assessment indicators for you. All these changes in mentality occur subconsciously, and it's difficult for both sides to notice them.