Why do we always aim the sharpest words at the people closest to us? It's because only those closest to us have the opportunity to accumulate prejudices. As for those with whom we have little interaction, it's very easy for us to show the noble side of our character. Prejudices stem from trivial matters in daily life. It could be just an unpleasant conversation or a disagreement over a travel plan. These minor differences in opinions can directly affect our subconscious minds and lead us to accumulate prejudices. For example, at work, we tend to reject the requests of colleagues we don't like, even when those requests are reasonable. In an intimate relationship, we might oppose any small suggestions put forward by our partners later just because of a previous quarrel. In the family, we may gradually become silent due to an unpleasant communication, even if the other person has the right to know certain thingsSimilarly, this kind of prejudice is mutual. In an intimate relationship, both parties with prejudices against each other will feel terrible, because the source of prejudice is based on facts. That is to say, the more prejudices the other person has accumulated against us, the more we will feel completely exposed. And at this time, the person who feels exposed often needs to find a relationship without prejudice to make themselves feel good. That is, they may have an affair.

我们追过的女性主义鸡汤，为什么治不好你的精神内耗？ 女性主义理论落地存在断崖。这来源于知识分子的傲慢：​​《第二性》教会你“父权制压迫”，却没教怎么用Excel在男性主导的部门争取预算；“打破凝视”很浪漫，但不会告诉你如何把“大龄未婚”变成相亲优势。而直播间抢券时，记住主播的催促话术，这是商家教你的“稀缺性操控”。 真正的自我力量并非来源于对物质、人际关系和社会认可的否定，而恰恰是建立在这些基础之上。 通过积极参与社会标准下的生活，例如努力学习、追求外貌提升、体验深刻的爱情，来积累经验和认知。 这种通过生活体验获得的自我认知，比单纯依靠网络观点更能塑造坚实的自我。 Why do I seem to live more like a "failure" the more I study feminism? Why can't the feminist chicken soup we've followed cure your mental burnout? There is a huge gap when it comes to implementing feminist theory. This stems from the arrogance of intellectuals: "The Second Sex" teaches you about "patriarchal oppression", but doesn't teach you how to use Excel to fight for a budget in a male - dominated department; "Breaking the gaze" is very romantic, but it won't tell you how to turn "being unmarried at an older age" into an advantage in blind dates. When grabbing coupons in a live - streaming room, remember the host's urging words, which is the "scarcity manipulation" taught by merchants. True self - power doesn't come from denying material possessions, interpersonal relationships, and social recognition. Instead, it is precisely built on these very foundations. By actively participating in life under social standards, such as studying hard, pursuing physical appearance improvement, and experiencing profound love, we can accumulate experiences and knowledge. This kind of self - awareness obtained through life experiences can shape a more solid self than simply relying on online viewpoints.

翻译：本集播客探讨了人际关系中付出与价值之间的复杂关系。 文章指出，人们常常困惑于为何无条件的付出并未换来相应的珍惜。 其核心观点在于，人类天性倾向于不珍惜轻易获得的事物，这一特性深植于基因之中。 道德规范虽旨在约束这种本性，但其作用往往受限于是否带来实际的利益或损害。 因此，仅仅依靠付出衡量自身价值，可能会产生偏差，因为人性往往战胜道德约束

Why Is "Short - term Withdrawal" More Effective Than Permanent Self - discipline? 短期多巴胺戒断可以帮助大脑重塑控制感，并为长期自律打下基础。• 多巴胺陷阱与决策疲劳。频繁使用手机等行为会强化杏仁核中的“多巴胺陷阱”，导致前额叶皮层逐渐失去决策能力。这会使人陷入决策疲劳，甚至情绪失控。 • 7天戒断的神经可塑性。神经科学研究表明，刻意戒断7天可以触发两个关键转折点： ◦ 前3天是杏仁核“战斗或逃跑”反应的消退期。 ◦ 后4天是前额叶皮层重新获得控制的黄金窗口期。 • 重塑控制感。7天戒断的真正价值不在于永久戒除，而在于通过短期胜利重塑控制感1。不必永远戒除，但如果每月戒断一个行为（如短视频、外卖或网购）7天，实际上是为大脑安装了一个“重启按钮”。 • 长期自律的底层动机。完成7天挑战后，“发现空闲时间可以被美好的事物填满”的惊喜，将成为坚持长期自律的潜在动力。 • 如何坚持？ ◦ 列出最想戒掉的四个成瘾习惯，每周戒掉一个。 ◦ 邀请朋友一起参加7天戒断挑战。 ◦ 这种大框架的作息将帮助你建立日常小习惯。

在当今资本主义带来诸多负面现象的背景下，中国古代哲学所蕴含的智慧确实能为人们指引方向，从《逍遥游》此句延伸开去，可在以下方面体现其价值： 1. 摆脱功利与物质束缚：资本主义主导下，无休止的战争与资源掠夺多源于对利益的过度追逐，消费主义则刺激人们不断追求物质占有。而庄子主张 “至人无己，神人无功，圣人无名”，倡导超越功利与对物质的执着。当人们陷入为财富、权力不择手段的怪圈时，借鉴庄子思想，能让人们审视内心真正需求，不被物质欲望驱使，减少因争夺资源引发的冲突，回归精神富足。例如，在消费主义诱导下，人们常购买大量非必需物品以彰显身份。若以庄子观念思考，便会明白真正的满足并非来自物质堆砌，从而摆脱消费主义枷锁。 2. 坚守自我与平和心态：在资本主义引发的混乱环境中，舆论易被操控，人们易受外界评价左右。正如《逍遥游》中 “举世誉之而不加劝，举世非之而不加沮”，提醒人们保持独立思考，不被外界喧嚣干扰。面对战争宣传、消费主义洗脑等外界影响，不盲目跟从，坚守内心道德与价值观，维持平和心态，避免因外界动荡陷入焦虑与疯狂。比如，在舆论鼓吹战争正义或消费至上时，能够冷静分析，不被煽动。 3. 顺应自然与和谐发展：中国古代哲学强调顺应自然，如道家 “道法自然”。资本主义对资源过度开发，破坏生态平衡，引发各种危机。而顺应自然思想启示人们，人类发展应与自然和谐共生，不过度索取。在资源利用上，秉持适度、合理原则，避免因资源争夺战争。例如，发展可持续能源，遵循自然规律，实现人与自然、人与人和谐，走出资本主义带来的困境。

* 不婚不育比结婚生子更难，因为它要求一个人在没有传统家庭支持的情况下，依然能够找到属于自己的生活方式，并为之负责到底。 * 不婚不育的人需要具备强大的内在力量，包括执行力、终身学习的能力、修正观念的勇气、对孤独的深刻理解、对社会压力的抵抗以及对生命意义的主动探索。 结构分析 1. 不婚不育的内在要求 * 第一，强大的执行力和终身学习的能力 执行力帮助建立长久的事业，提供持续的人生满足感。 终身学习的能力让人保持与时代的紧密连接，维护动态的人际关系。 * 第二，修正观念的勇气和智慧 能够在孤独时告诉自己：“我现在的孤独来自我的自由，我不为自己的决定感到后悔。” 在面对生死时，能够确定自己的选择是正确的，并为之负责。 2. 结婚生子的“简单化”与不婚不育的“复杂化” * 结婚生子： 将人生目标具体化、简单化，提供一条清晰的道路。 养育孩子的过程会阶段性地提供反馈，成功或失败都可以归因于孩子。 结婚生子为人们提供了一种“社会认可的脚本”，减少了自我探索的焦虑。 * 不婚不育： 没有现成的社会脚本，人生的目标和意义需要自己去探索和定义。 这种不确定性可能会让人感到迷茫和焦虑。 3. 单身的挑战与陷阱 * 单身的人可能会因为害怕孤独而陷入消费主义或短期关系。 * 如果没有找到真正热爱的事情，可能会丧失对生活的热情。 * 寻找自己、认可自己需要更多的内在资源和物质条件。 4. 不婚不育的深层意义 * 不婚不育的人需要对生命的意义有更深刻的思考和探索。 * 他们无法依赖家庭来赋予生活意义，因此必须主动寻找属于自己的意义。 * 只有这样，才能避免被岁月吞噬，活出属于自己的精彩人生。 总结 不婚不育的人必须主动寻找生命的意义，才能避免被岁月吞噬，活出属于自己的精彩人生。

社交媒体和短视频平台（如抖音）不仅仅是一种娱乐工具，它们代表了一种文化转向，潜移默化地改变了社会的价值观和行为模式。这种影响不仅仅是让人沉迷于消磨时间，而是通过算法、流量和社交压力，重塑了社会的意识形态。 具体表现 1. 对人际关系的重塑 Dating app 等平台使人们越来越缺乏耐心去建立和维护长期关系。人们一边抱怨“爱情已死”，一边却不愿意付出真心。 这种“快餐式”社交模式削弱了人们对深度情感的投入，导致人际关系更加表面化和功利化。 2. 对消费文化的异化 网络平台驱动的消费行为挤压了现实生活中的互动，缩短了产业链，恶化了营商环境。消费者不得不花费更多时间筛选商品和浏览广告。互联网商业化使得广告无处不在，人们的注意力被不断分割，消费行为变得更加冲动和非理性。 3. 对文化和社会意识形态的转向 互联网平台通过“挑战文化”（如“冰桶挑战”“瓶盖挑战”）和“打卡文化”，引导用户模仿特定行为，甚至不顾安全风险。这种行为模仿的背后，是平台通过流量和社交压力对用户行为的引导，形成了一种隐性的“大众劝说”。 更深层次的影响 - 信息消费的片面性：人们更容易被情绪化、偏激甚至低俗的内容吸引，导致网络环境极端化，这也是网络暴力的重要来源。 - 工具理性对价值理性的压制：社交媒体和短视频平台的崛起，反映了工具理性（追求效率和即时满足）对价值理性（追求意义和深度）的压制。 - 文化工业的延伸：这些平台通过标准化、娱乐化的内容生产，塑造了一种新的文化消费模式，改变了人们对世界的认知方式。 总结 社交媒体和短视频平台不仅仅是技术工具，它们通过算法、流量和社交压力，潜移默化地改变了人们的行为习惯和价值观。这种文化转向是一种隐性的“大众劝说”，它通过消费导向、行为模仿和情感绑定，重塑了社会的意识形态。

When faced with verbal bullying in work and study, we can choose to resist or ignore it. Resisting means directly pointing out that the other person's words make you uncomfortable and demanding more objective, fair and equal communication. This approach requires you to respect your own feelings and have the courage to face conflicts. You can regard it as an opportunity to exercise your conflict-handling ability. Ignoring is applicable when you think the current work or study task is very important. Don't let the other person's words define you, and don't doubt yourself because of any attacks. This requires you to clearly understand your own strengths and have self-confidence. Here are some tips for dealing with verbal bullying: ● Confide: You can confide your grievances to a friend, but don't repeat them over and over again. Repeating them is equivalent to pulling out the knife that others stabbed into you and stabbing yourself again, which is a form of self-attack. ● Empathy: Try to view those who habitually use verbal violence from a higher and more merciful perspective. They usually engage in repetitive work for a long time, especially in the field of training. They are trapped by this work pattern and often output negative emotions outwardly, unable to perceive the impact of their words on others. We can also view ourselves from a broader perspective. The current experience is just a small part of our lives. We shouldn't be trapped in the present by those who are trapped in the present. Instead, we should keep in mind that our goal is as vast as the sea of stars.

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How do housewives achieve self-demotion? People need their own careers. They need to obtain a sense of identity and a sense of accomplishment from their jobs or the things they are creating. However, being a housewife means cutting off the broader sources of a sense of accomplishment. After becoming a housewife, if even for just a second, you regard gaining your family's satisfaction as the goal of life or obtain recognition from it, you will automatically be demoted to a maid. Your family members will subconsciously find fault with your "work". They will shift from being originally grateful for your efforts to judging them. They may start to compare your work with the standards they've seen from other channels. For example, at first, they thought the meals you cooked were delicious, but later on, they gradually began to think that the meals you cooked were not nutritious or healthy enough, even though they didn't have to do the cooking themselves. Or they might think that the cleaning you did wasn't clean enough. The difficulty here is that once you become a housewife, it's almost impossible for you to receive positive feedback from anywhere outside the family. Inevitably, you will put yourself in the position of a maid. And your family members will gradually regard you as a maid based on the signals conveyed by your daily behaviors, taking a clean and tidy home environment and delicious meals as the assessment indicators for you. All these changes in mentality occur subconsciously, and it's difficult for both sides to notice them.

In the context of an intimate relationship, when we discern that the behavior of our partner exhibits manipulative tendencies, we are often inclined to question the nature of such manipulation - whether it is a conscious and calculated act or an inadvertent occurrence. There is a common propensity to rationalize or defend the other person by presuming the latter. However, a more incisive analysis reveals that, irrespective of the intention behind the manipulation, the consequences and implications are equally deleterious.In the case of deliberate manipulation, it signals certain underlying character deficiencies. Primarily, it denotes a lack of self-assurance and a frail internal sense of self-worth. Such an individual operates under the fallacy that the retention of those in their proximity can only be achieved through manipulative stratagems, thereby neglecting the fundamental tenet of reciprocity in human interactions - that giving is essential for receiving. It is not inconceivable that their purported affection for the other person is, in fact, a guise for their enjoyment of the power dynamic that manipulation affords them. Individuals of this ilk are statistically more likely to engage in infidelity in the subsequent course of the relationship.Conversely, if the manipulation is unintentional, it is symptomatic of a profound deficit in empathetic capacity. These individuals are incapable of discerning the ramifications of their actions on others. Their utterances are often spontaneous and unfiltered, bereft of any consideration for the potential harm they may inflict on those in their social sphere. Regrettably, the paucity of empathy in such cases is a trait that is notoriously resistant to modification in later stages of life.

In an intimate relationship, there are some deliberate manipulation tactics. For example: 1. Verbally claiming to attach importance to you but refusing to communicate with you in depth. This is to cause cognitive dissonance in you. Unconsciously, you will increase your emotional investment in this relationship. Eventually, these emotions will transform into affection, leading you to fall in love with someone who originally did not meet your requirements. 2. Maintaining overly close contact with other people of the opposite sex and insisting that they are just ordinary friends, and deliberately praising other women in front of you. This is to make you unconsciously enter into competition with others and feel that you can never securely possess this person no matter what. 3. Since you completely lack a sense of security, you are forced to verify your partner's love from some very trivial matters. For example, you start to demand an instant reply to messages and other things that you didn't originally care about. Therefore, if we find ourselves in a relationship asking our partner to do these trivial things, please pause for a moment and think about why. Why do we need him to reply to messages instantly? Are we trying to confirm our own value? If you don't realize this, these small demands of ours will eventually become the handle by which the other person blames you, accusing you of being a control freak who demands him to do many small things that he cannot do. 4. Because these manipulation means are very concealed and only target you, when you quarrel with the other person over these small things, the other person immediately accuses you of being selfish and petty. You have been in a state of extreme lack of security and self-doubt for a long time, resulting in an extremely unstable mental state.

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