众生皆苦。 Thus, it does not make sense for us to seek for total avoidance of pain; instead, when pain inevitably hits, we should first try to find peace with it, and then see if we can learn anything from it and come out of it being even stronger and mentally tougher. On the other hand, if we have not yet developed any constructive perception towards it, we might wallow in the pain and get drowned in the bitter sea of our own making. Choose.

一阵秋风，一曲浪漫，就有了这集的灵感。 With years coming by actually the concept of romance for me is more and more dissociated from the idea of having a partner. It's more like a state of being, a form of vibe, something that you don't encounter, but create. 聊了聊发现自己心目中的浪漫貌似非常接近self-care, 啊！such a revelation, and such a relief. 听得好的课代表还是在评论区整理7件浪漫之事吧，mua! Leave me comments!

最近玫瑰的故事很火，我也看了这部剧。 其中玫瑰在第一段和第二段感情中，自己的情绪反应并不被看见，更不被理解。深深共情了她，然后就有了这集。 稍微聊了下社会中女性的困境，同时这何尝又不折射出一些男性的困境呢(in a different way though). p.s. 录这集的时候在喝酒，如有口齿不清请见谅嘿嘿（and I'm not sorry about it）

I am far from a movie maniac, but these years I have formed my own taste on movies, too, kind of fortunate that I have met a handful of masterpieces(in my mind) to somehow resonate with me or even to clear my doubt. Kudos to those who still insist on producing high-quality films with their heart and soul.

Dopamine, endorphin, serotonin, oxytocin. May you have a great relationship with them :)

Hi there everyone~ Another year is passing by and now looking ahead, I'm pretty sure we all hold nice, wonderful wishes for the year to come. But watch out, we might make the new year resolutions the wrong way--not that it matters, in fact you'll be fine even if those resolutions never come true--but I mean, if you are serious with the result, you might as well consider things other than the behavior itself, because our behaviors are oftentimes not determined by our willpower, but by our systems and our physical and mental health.

This is a very long long long episode, really testing out your patience! But hopefully you guys can enjoy it still. Leave me comments if you guys have further questions! Mua！

Thanks. For your company, for your support, for all your love.

The new year has come, and even though in fact the first days in 2023 scientifically should be no different from the last days of 2022, still, humans just have the instinct(or it's an implanted belief?) that a new year automatically ushers in something new. That is why we usually make new-year resolutions. But according to experience, we will quickly meet some difficulties and the feeling of failure, anxiety, helplessness will creep back. So here in this episode, I've put in three mantras to hopefully help you guys achieve a calmer state of mind and therefore to have a happy and successful year ahead of you. Much love from Niki.

Trips! The best. With covid policies getting lifted, I'm sure the tourism industry will bounce back, and we deserve to have some fun! I'm lucky enough to be taking a trip already and I feel like instead of feeling intense even during trips, the better way to go is to CREATE your trip, not to copy someone else's.

Whereas I am a firm believer of love, it's just so difficult to put it into language and describe it in vivid details like you can with what's on your plate for dinner this evening. I can just throw the word "love", and then trust your sense on this word so that you can understand and hopefully absorb what I am trying to deliver in this episode. See for yourself.

For our entire life we've been striving to get smart, yet we probably have never realized that being smart in too many aspects of our life can secretly steal away our happiness. So now if you have realized this after this episode, congratulations, cuz you now can practice being "stupid", stupidly believing sth. that probably is not true, stupidly looking at the bright side and using a positive narrative to tell the story. Protect your energy. Key to happiness.

We are blessed with the access to a sea of information; yet too little of such information is treated seriously by us and internalized as part of who we are. Next time when you come across a good mantra, a good book, etc., don't just flip through it unconcernedly. Revisit it. Repeat it, until you have fully understood and absorbed the goodness in it.

The art of letting go, emptiness, or sometimes nothingness. If you think about it, there is a Buddhism touch to it, isn’t there? The idea is that, if you hold on to an emotion, or a belief too tightly, you yourself are basically like a full room, or a solid fortress, that does not allow anything to go inside of you, not to mention to change you in a way that might potentially benefit you.

The external world is as exciting and fascinating as it is, so much so that we oftentimes forget to look inside us, where there is a world no less splendid than a high mountain, or a double rainbow after a summer thundershower. One of the most important ways of getting to know ourselves is to analyse our emotions--not those ones on the superficial level, but on the deep, more fundamental level. You'd be surprised how much more you have discovered about yourself. Have fun on this journey! :)